10 Simple Ways to Boost Your Child’s Self Esteem at Home
Self-esteem is the foundation of a child’s emotional wellbeing. When children feel good about themselves, they’re more likely to take healthy risks, bounce back from challenges and build positive relationships. The good news? You don’t need expensive programs or therapy sessions to make a difference - you can nurture your child’s self esteem every day, right at home.
Here are 10 simple ways to help your kids feel more confident, valued and emotionally strong.
1. Praise Effort, Not Just Results
Focus on your child’s hard work and persistence rather than outcomes. For example, say: “You worked so hard on that puzzle!” instead of “You’re so smart!”
Why it works: This teaches resilience and reinforces the value of trying.
2. Let Them Make Choices
Offer age-appropriate choices, like what to wear or what snack to eat.
Why it works: It builds decision-making skills and helps children feel in control.
3. Encourage Independence
Let your child try things on their own - even if it means making mistakes.
Why it works: Completing tasks independently gives kids a sense of accomplishment and capability.
4. Use Positive Affirmations
Incorporate daily affirmations like “I am kind” or “I can do hard things.”
Why it works: Positive self-talk helps build an inner voice of encouragement.
5. Celebrate Small Wins
Whether they tie their shoes for the first time or speak up in class, acknowledge small successes.
Why it works: Regular recognition boosts confidence and motivation.
6. Create a Safe Space to Talk
Listen without judgment when your child shares how they feel.
Why it works: Feeling heard and validated builds trust and emotional security.
7. Set Realistic Expectations
Avoid pressure for perfection. Instead, focus on growth and effort.
Why it works: It prevents fear of failure and promotes healthy self-worth.
8. Teach Them to Try Again
Help your child see mistakes as opportunities to learn. Model this by saying things like “I didn’t get it right either, but I’ll keep trying.”
Why it works: Builds resilience and teaches self-compassion.
9. Encourage Them to Help Others
Invite your child to help with age-appropriate tasks at home or simple acts of kindness.
Why it works: Helping others fosters a sense of purpose and pride.
10. Use Tools That Reinforce Positive Identity
Introduce self-esteem worksheets, vision boards or journals (like those in our Happy Hearts Activities Pack).
Why it works: These tools give kids a visual reminder of their strengths and value.
Confidence Starts at Home
Every child deserves to feel loved, capable and worthy. With just a few minutes a day, you can make a big impact on how your child sees themselves. By building daily routines around encouragement, independence and emotional connection, you’re giving your child the tools they need to thrive.
Want more resources to help your child grow confident and resilient?
Explore our Self Esteem Activities - filled with confidence boosters, self awareness activities, positive affirmations and conversation starters to boost confidence from the inside out.
